If you’re looking for inspiration then these days no one is suffering from a shortage of self-help reading material out there. Great online content, book recommendations and must-read lists… Most of us struggle to read what we want let alone find the time to check out new cool stuff.
You could increase the time you read, read faster by learning to speed read or you could take the strategic approach by reading summaries.
If that’s for you then you’ll want to check out this article by Susie Moore. Moore is someone that struggled in her early life, had an alcoholic father and was not surrounded by much ambition or inspiration.
In the piece Moore says she always knew that her life was special and that she was meant to do more with it but struggled to voice herself until she came across a book that changed her life — The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz, Ph.D. Moore writes, “It gave me support, ideas, and endless encouragement for years.”
“The strength given to me by the books I’ve read vastly outweighs any other source of influence in my life.” – Susie Moore
Since then she has read 500 books and has thankfully summarized 17 years’ worth of reading into five simple lessons.
The 5 Key Principles She Learned
1. Take 100-percent responsibility for your life.
“To create the life you want, you have to take sole responsibility for it. Forget your parents, your exes, the opportunities (or lack thereof) you were given. Your life’s direction is entirely up to you. Zero excuses.”
I completely agree. and I would even go as far as to say that while there are things that can happen in your life that are outside of your control, if you take responsibility for everything, 100% of everything in your life then you will always be in an empowering position — the creator of circumstance rather than a victim of circumstance.
2. You are allowed to be anything you want.
“The extent to which you use your gifts and capabilities is up to you,” writes Moore, “but they exist to be shared and to serve others. You have an obligation to be who your heart knows you can be.”
In my experience, the vast majority of people are not lacking the talent or ability to be or do what they envision. Some people want to write a book, some people want to start a YouTube channel, some people want to start a business… But they seem to be waiting for permission from the outside world. They’re lacking self-belief.
“Inherent in every desire is the mechanics for its fulfillment,” Deepak Chopra writes in The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success.
The only person who can ever tell you that you can’t do something is you.
3. Your thoughts are everything.
“Feel like sh*t? It’s because of what you are thinking in that moment (probably fear- or guilt-based thoughts). Feel elated? It’s because of what you are thinking in that moment (probably gratitude or satisfaction with the world),” explains Moore. The good news, she points out, is you can change your thoughts.
She further mentions the Law of Attraction and states:
“Every single area of your life right now has been manifested as a result of your thoughts. So guard your thoughts like a pitbull (and lose the negative people, pronto).”
Your perception is your reality.
4. Love yourself.
Moore writes: “You do not need to do, have, be anything different to be worthy of love. You are worthy simply because you exist.”
In my opinion, when it comes to living a happy, healthy, and successful life self-love is the foundation. Without it you will never achieve your potential. You won’t even begin to scratch the surface of what you are capable of without a healthy amount of love, admiration and respect for yourself.
As Gary Vaynerchuck says “If you’re not your biggest fan you’ve lost.”
5. There is always a higher power at work (and it’s on your side).
While not everyone will agree with this one, from all the books Susie Moore has read the lesson is:
“Do your best work and trust in a power that is bigger than you.”
Certainly believing this gives one faith, hope and optimism when the chips are down and things seem to be going against you. For me personally, I subscribe to this belief and always tell myself whatever happens, happens for the best. If anything, its a less stressful way to live!
When it comes to reading self-help books it is very easy for people to get caught up in “mental masturbation”. I know from experience than reading alone will not make the difference unless you act upon what you learn.
However, Like Susie Moore, the books I’ve read have powerfully influenced my life.
If you take full responsibility for your life, if you believe in yourself, if you are mindful of your thoughts, if you practise self-love and if you do your best while trusting in a higher power then there’s very little that you can’t achieve. Powerful lessons.
“Every life is special. You matter. Your dreams matter. It’s up to you to take action in the direction of your dreams, and when you do, you’ll be met halfway—I promise.” – Susie Moore